Published in P.S. I Love You·PinnedMember-onlyRemembering Love Like I’m EightHow a long-lost childhood friend taught me to love again — My first wedding happened in my parents’ basement in 1996. I was eight years old, and the groom was my best friend Alex. We thought that marriage meant promising to be best friends forever. Three years earlier, my mother answered a knock at the door to find a neighbor holding…Childhood4 min readChildhood4 min read
Jul 18, 2021Member-onlyWhat We Lose by Prioritizing Weight LossI put my goals on hold because the thinner me deserved them more — I’m moving next month, and I’m decluttering so I don’t have to move things I never use or don’t need. I found a notebook that I recognized as being one that I’ve used for goal-related notes in the past so I took a break to look through it. The first…Health5 min readHealth5 min read
Feb 24, 2021Member-onlyDon’t Fall for the Skinny Jeans Side Part DramaMillennials and Gen Z are on the same side — You’ve probably heard the news. Millennials’ skinny jeans and side parts and love of the cry-laugh emoji are out. Not only out, they’re old. If you have a side part and skinny jeans, you probably also have a grandchild, memories of ’90s Taco Bell interiors, and maybe a 401(k). So…Millennials4 min readMillennials4 min read
Published in Ascent Publication·Jan 22, 2021Member-onlyWhat We Get Wrong About SMART GoalsHow to stop beating yourself up for missing a deadline — Goals should be SMART, right? Specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. But a lot of us fail to pay attention to the achievable and relevant parts of the planning process. We stick to specific and time-bound, and if life goes sideways or we get smacked with a global pandemic or…Self Improvement7 min readSelf Improvement7 min read
Jan 6, 2021Member-only5 Anger Languages and What They Mean for YouIs your anger trying to keep you safe? — We typically view anger as a negative emotion that we want to get rid of as fast as possible. Anger can feel like losing control, or like we’re letting someone get the better of us and keep us in a negative emotion. And those are real aspects of anger. But…Anger7 min readAnger7 min read
Oct 19, 2020Member-onlyHow to Eat Ethically When You’re Recovering from an Eating DisorderWhen striving for better habits can trigger self harm — My mother put me on my first diet when I was twelve. I still remember the way she traced a circle in the palm of her hand to show our babysitter how big three ounces of meat was, to monitor our serving sizes. I also remember choking down raw broccoli…Eating Disorders8 min readEating Disorders8 min read
Apr 10, 2020Member-onlyCan You Run Out of Motivation?Your possibilities are endless, but it pays to focus — Do you ever panic that you need to achieve all your dreams right now, or you’ll run out of motivation — or time? I spend a lot of time reminding myself that going slow and being deliberate is part of the process. …Productivity3 min readProductivity3 min read
Apr 7, 2020Member-onlyHow to Make Any Criticism ConstructiveSeparating the feedback from the feeling — Criticism is hard to hear, because no one wants to hear that they’re doing something wrong. But criticism can be a gift, if you know what to look for. We often hear about “constructive criticism,” which is meant to help us improve (that’s why it’s constructive). …Criticism5 min readCriticism5 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Apr 6, 2020Member-onlyCould He Still Love Me Without My Eating Disorder?What to do when your partner stops loving you — My ex-partner wooed me with poems and promises of us reaching our dreams together — our dreams of weight loss and being that enviable gym couple. The poem was about how I looked in my dating app profile picture, bedecked in race medals from 5ks, 10ks, and half marathons. He…Eating Disorders4 min readEating Disorders4 min read
Apr 4, 2020Member-onlyWhy Can’t We Just Stay Home?Why we need social distancing — We all know someone who is struggling with social distancing. Someone who is going from store to store, sort of understanding the risk but unable to help themselves and just sit down. It’s annoying, it’s frustrating, it’s even understandable. Staying at home when you want to is one thing, but…Covid 196 min readCovid 196 min read
