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I Made a PowerPoint to Teach People to Love Me
I recently did something that I thought would be silly, or selfish, or outlandish.
I wrote a manual on how to love me.
It gives the basics about me and my background, includes a list of my favorite things, discusses how to best communicate with me, describes how I interact within each of the five love languages, and has links to blog posts and book recommendations to help understand my trauma and triggers. It even has tips on how to help me through a panic attack.
I posted about it on my personal Facebook page and I expected some laughs and comments about how I was being super type-A.
But the response was nothing short of love and encouragement.
It’s okay to ask for love
It’s okay to ask for love in the ways you need it. It’s okay to say, “Could you love me this way instead?”
For me, one of the worst things is to ignore me or make me do all the work of initiating conversation or contact. Feeling like I have to chase affection is deeply painful. I am still learning that love is abundant and available, that I don’t have to earn it, and that I certainly don’t have to beg for it.
An unexpected message from a loved one can light up my whole day, reassure me that they are…
