Life Lessons I Learned from Kissing

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Kissing is one of my favorite forms of physical intimacy. It’s one of the first things people do to express mutual attraction, it’s sexy and sensual without being sex, and it’s just really pleasant, in my experience.

In the past, I was a timid kisser. As I got more confident with partners, I learned what I liked when it came time to put my lips on someone else’s lips. Not too much tongue, but enough to keep things varied and interesting. Little smacky smoochy sounds. Taking a break to giggle or sigh and then get back to the kissing.

Kissing is great. And, it turns out, kissing has taught me a lot about life.

I am desirable

Kissing isn’t always sexual.

I grew up with really low self esteem, so the first time I went on a date and ended up kissing somebody, I was pretty over the moon about it. Being passionately kissed for the first time in my life felt like a dramatic movie scene. I believed I was desirable and sexy.

I really enjoy kissing, and I have even platonically kissed friends on the forehead, cheek, and sometimes lips if everybody is into it. Kissing is a great way to show affection and it doesn’t always need to be sexual.

Consent is sexy

Asking first doesn’t…